The Paradox of Purposeful Inaction

Have you ever felt that uncomfortable sensation when your body is screaming for change? That's exactly where I found myself recently – caught in a masculine, pushing, externally-driven strategy that left me depleted and disconnected from my own wisdom.

When I noticed myself speaking words that left a bad taste in my mouth, I recognized it was time for a radical shift. Rather than trying to ease back gradually, I slammed on the brakes completely. This wasn't about making minor adjustments – it was about honoring a profound internal calling for transformation.

The most powerful insight came when I realized that as we evolve in frequency, we can't expect everyone around us to change with us. The solution isn't forcing others to match our new vibration; it's having the courage to leave rooms we've outgrown to find spaces aligned with our current selves. This meant clearing my calendar of anything that wasn't essential – even long-term friendships that had evolved into regular calls – to create space before opportunities arrived.

What followed was the challenging practice of sitting in stillness without productivity. No multitasking during bubble baths, no researching prospects, no building landing pages – just being present and allowing recalibration. As the waters of my life became still, something magical happened: opportunities I'd been chasing for years began approaching me. I realized my constant movement had been creating ripples that scared away the very things I desired.

This counterintuitive approach – detaching completely from outcomes and embracing stillness – attracted once-in-a-lifetime opportunities that appeared effortlessly. If you've been pushing relentlessly toward goals without success, I challenge you to experiment with letting go. Release your grip on what you think you need, sit in peaceful awareness, and watch as the universe responds with unexpected abundance. Sometimes the most powerful action is no action at all.

Transcript

Energy Shift and Body Signals

Speaker 1 1:13

Recently, I had a shift in energy. It was a massive shift from more of a masculine, pushing, externally driven, feedback focused strategy. It was a lot, and I was consuming a lot of external material and I was really feeling like I was putting in an excess amount of energy for what I was getting back out. So I stopped Everything. I decided, instead of just easing back, I was going to essentially just slam on the brakes and something would change. I didn't know what, but it's like my body was screaming for something different. It was saying this is not it, jaina, this is not what we are meant to be doing, is not what we are meant to be doing. And every time my body has given me these signals, if I don't listen, it ends up turning into sickness, disease, eyelid eczema, cysts on my vulva, you name it and those are some painful situations. So I'm going to avoid that. Yeah, I'm going to go ahead and listen.

Speaker 1 2:41

And so this time, what did I do different? Well, first it took me a while to hear the signs and to like, get the cue and go. Oh, and then go. Okay, I need to make some changes here. But what are the changes I'm going to make? Because I've made changes in my life quite a lot over the last few decades, but what did I need this time?

Detaching from External Voices

Speaker 1 2:54

And so one of the things I started to recognize was that my world was getting very loud. There were a lot of external voices, and so I was having a hard time hearing my own internal voice, because I had everybody else's feedback and opinions and this, that and the other. Plus, I noticed that I was going and telling the same stories over and over and over, and it was like people weren't hearing the new stories, they were only ever listening and hearing the old stories, and so I was finding that as I was shifting and evolving into a new version of myself, because they weren't evolving, they were not able to stay with me, because they can only continue to accept me if I stay the same as I was when I matched their frequency. And as I continue to change frequency, the only thing that they know to do is to keep me in their frequency, and so there's nothing wrong with that. It's just we change, we evolve, and at this time I was feeling a separation from people.

Speaker 1 4:04

Voices that I used to find comforting, voices I used to seek out and really enjoy, were becoming something that were ruminating Statements, were staying in my mind for long periods of time. It was causing me to make choices, to allow myself to sit into emotions I didn't like. I said to someone once, very recently, when I was talking about this change and I said you know, I think it was the moment that I noticed I said something and I didn't like the way my words tasted. She said what? Yeah, I noticed that I was saying something and I did not like the way my words tasted.

Frequency Changes and Leaving Rooms

Speaker 1 4:55

When you say something and it comes from a negative space and you train yourself to notice it, for me it's a taste in my mouth. I don't like how it tastes when I talk negatively about someone or something else, because there is nothing inherently wrong with anybody. It is just a different frequency as you and so it seems wrong to you at that time because you are not a frequency match. And it's interesting when you can go from something being a direct frequency match to you for a long time to then shifting to where you're like I want something different out of life, I want to vibrate at a different frequency, and then you start to change frequencies and now you find that you're saying negative things about people you used to say positive things about, used to say positive things about, and they have not changed. You have changed and so you changing to be able to maintain the change in your frequency easily and effortlessly.

Speaker 1 5:56

The solution is not to have everybody else around you change. The solution is for you to leave those spaces and go into new spaces. And it's like if you want to go into new rooms and meet new people at higher levels, you have to be willing to leave the rooms that you're currently in. That's really hard to hear sometimes, because you get really comfortable and you start to develop relationships and you love these people and they've been through tough things with you and it's like but they've watched me grow and I could just stay and I can go in new rooms and stay in this room. It's like, no, you can't. You're splitting your energy. Where your energy goes, where your attention goes, your energy flows, and if your attention is scheduling time to be in rooms with these people, you can't be in rooms with other people. It's something you really have to be intentional about.

Clearing the Calendar for Opportunities

Speaker 1 6:58

So when I noticed that I was ready for new rooms, I first detached from everything. I first detached from everything. I had this gut hit that I needed to clear everything off my calendar that wasn't a paying client or a call with a team member, anything reoccurring like intro call with someone, connection call with someone, that's different. But anything that was a reoccurring weekly, bi-weekly thing that was not a client or a team member cleared off my calendar and that was really tough to do. I had developed a lot of long-term friendships with people that have turned into monthly, bi-weekly or weekly calls, even if it was 20, 30, 45 minutes or an hour. Sometimes those calls would go over an hour and a half, two hours.

Speaker 1 7:47

Doing that on a regular basis was eating into my time and I loved the connections I loved. Some of them were very productive, some of them fed into me and the things that I've evolved through. Some of them were content. Some of them all had positiveness to it or I would not have done it. But I had a shift internally that was saying okay, we need to quiet the voices, we need to turn inwardly, you need to take back your time on your calendar. And the last time that this happened, years ago, when I took back my time on my calendar, then I had a bunch of opportunities pop up and I had oh well, what do you know? A bunch of time on my calendar to be able to say yes, you have to clear the closet out before you put the new clothes in, otherwise you're just shoving things in and there's not space. Create space for opportunities before the opportunities arise.

Embracing Stillness and Attracting Success

Speaker 1 8:40

So that's what I did I detached, I started to clear things off my calendar and, instead of filling my calendar back in with things, I sat in silence. I pushed myself to get really uncomfortable, to take these bubble baths where I would do nothing, nothing. I would meditate, I wouldn't read a book, I wouldn't create content, I wouldn't edit videos, I wouldn't and these are all things I normally do when I'm doing bubble baths, because to me, a bubble bath can be have a stacked habit on there. So I'm going to be productive while I'm doing it and I forced myself to just sit and enjoy it, meditate and be silent, think, feel experience be present. Think, feel, experience be present. And then I allowed myself to do that on the couch and then on the back porch and during a walk around the neighborhood and over at my brother and sister-in-law's house with my nieces and nephews. And then I allowed myself time to not do anything.

Speaker 1 9:51

I didn't research prospective clients, I didn't tighten up my offer, I didn't build another landing page, I didn't create another social media thing, I didn't work on my content pillars. I didn't nothing. I just sat in stillness and allowed myself to recalibrate, allowed myself to come back to a baseline, without the external feedback and without the external noise, and I just allowed things to stop for a little while. And then, just as things got really still in the water, opportunities started to pop up. It's almost like when I detached, I set the bait and then, when I sat in silence, I just waited for someone to come along and then, the moment that that's here, I now can do something about it, I can now move forward, but I didn't have to go out and find the fish. In fact, movement creates ripples in the water and ripples scare the fish away. So I think what was happening was that I had been doing so much active movement for so long that everything was just getting scared away from me, because it seemed like there was just a lot happening here.

Speaker 1 11:30

Creating stillness brought people in. They leaned in with more curiosity. They came in and said, hey, you've been quiet, what are you doing? What are you up to? Hey, what's happening over here? They got really curious, so curious. They got up close to my bait and said, oh, that's something I need, that's something I'm into. Tell me more about that. And now I'm in a conversation with someone where I get to actively tell them about something I'm so excited that I built. But I'm not going to them cold in the DM saying, oh my gosh, I'm so excited I built this thing. Oh my gosh, I'm so excited I built this thing sounding like every other cold DM.

Speaker 1 12:11

So I attracted it. I attracted it to me by detaching and sitting in stillness and it has been easy and effortless and things that I have been chasing for years and years and years. I finally allowed myself to just stop chasing and then they came to me and offered a once in a lifetime opportunity that we were able to say yes to, which is now leading to a once in a lifetime opportunity that we got to say yes to Because I detached and sat in stillness. Less is more. Slow down to speed up. It works.

Speaker 1 13:00

You don't always have to be moving forward, taking action.

Speaker 1 13:03

Move the goalpost, new goal, new goal.

Speaker 1 13:05

Sometimes that motion, that movement is just creating all the ripples that scare everything away.

The Magic of Detachment

Speaker 1 13:13

Sometimes you need to say, okay, I've done the movement, Now it's time to sit in stillness and breathe and have a season of going inward, a season of relaxation, a season of attraction and now attracting people in and getting them really curious. So they bite on your bait and say tell me more about this thing you've created. I'm interested that that's what you're looking for. So if you've been chasing something, a goal, anything, for a long time and you've been having a, a goal, anything, for a long time and you've been having a really hard time getting to it, I challenge you to just let go to say I don't need it anymore, I don't need to lose the weight, I don't need to make the money, I don't need to have the child, I don't need to get into the school, I don't need to get the job, I don't need any of it. And the moment you detach, then all of it wants to chase you. So just leverage that detach and sit in stillness and watch the magic of the opportunities attracting to you.